Do not underestimate the word of love
I know I have to type a blog today, for today.
Today, big thing happened. I started the first step to have a good relationship with my father.
I think I have to tell a bit of the background. I always find it very difficult to communicate with my father. The way he thinks and talk are really difficult for me to get into his world. I do want to thank Gabe - who was in my fellowship in Shatin Church. He shared that he had a barrier to love his father. He finally found the barrier is himself, not his father. It really woke me up when I hear from his sharing.
Today, my dad gave me a call. I can tell he got very frustrated and very unhappy when I hear his voice. It is probably my mum was yet again didn't respect his ideas/opinions and yet again turned a trivial conversation into a meaningless argue. He called me and he's angry at me too. It's because he feels I'm not on his side and not being a good son. He thinks I'm biases to my mum and only listen to what I'm happy to listen to. He was angry because his son is not by his side and not care much about him.
Our conversation started from:
1. Dad said he is a person that does not care about auguring, right or wrong does not make a different in those trivial conversations. He's also very open to ideas and criticisms.
2. He repeats 1.
3. He starts telling me mum is arguing with him
4. He repeats 1 again.
5. I got really fed up, I then told him, if (1) is true, you should not pay so much attention to the argue and let go to what really bother you.
6. Dad thinks I'm not by his side and then start accusing me.
7. I got very angry, and tell him I care about him. I want to have a better relationship with him. I asked if he wants the same.
8. Dad was speechless.
9. We told each other that we love each other, and cried on the phone.
It is amazing. I cannot imagine how much different it could make when I tell I love my father, even on the phone.
I encourage you, who ever read this article to this far, tell your father you love him. This is probably the best thing your father would receive in his life. It also can boost relationship with him in a way exceed your imagination.
I know. It is difficult to say but it really worth the effort you make.
Thank God for listening to my prayer.
4:47 AMI am so happy to hear that you and your father's (also my uncle) relationship have so much improve, in my apinion, comunication is a good way to improve the relationship to each other.
ps. Please don't laugh at my terrible English, Ha~ha~
» Post a Comment